The Mentalist Trick
Today I’m going to share with you one of my best techniques to make her want to kiss you on a first date.
It doesn’t matter if you met her on Tinder or at the grocery store. It just works. Especially if you’re one of those guys who never quite knew how to go for the first kiss.
This all goes back to 2010.
I was reading a local forum where someone mentioned cold readings — little tricks to create emotions — and they gave an example.
It was about reading a girl’s hand by memorizing a story. The story was good… but since I’ve always been the creative type when it comes to these things, I gave it my own twist and changed the ending to make it way more effective.
Thanks to my alternate ending, by the time you finish telling the story… she wants to kiss you.
You tell the story… and at the end, boom — a kiss.
Much better that way, right?
And how do you bring up the story during the date?
Easy.
I’ll walk you through it exactly the way I first shared it on my blog.
I had met a girl during a night out, and when I felt the moment for the kiss had arrived, I said:
Me: Do you know what a mentalist is?
Her: No, what is it?
Me: It’s someone who can guess things about you or your past just by reading your energy…
(Not true, but back then I didn’t even know the real definition of “mentalist” myself. I had just seen a few episodes of the TV show by that name.)
Me: I’m kind of a mentalist, you know?
Her: Oh really? Can you guess something about me?
(They almost always ask when you bring it up.)
Me: Of course! Come with me — it’s too noisy here.
(I grabbed her hand and led her to the other side of the club. We ended up alone.
It was the first time she separated from her friend Eva, and you could tell she was a bit uneasy.
When we reached the other bar and stopped, she looked back to make sure she hadn’t lost sight of her.)
Me: To read your mind, I’ll need your hand.
(When you do a cold reading, the way she gives you her hand tells you a lot about your chances of kissing her.
In this case, she was a little tense at first… but she was about to relax.)
Me: Let’s see… I’m getting something.
You love gummy candy and sleeping in late.
(It was true — and I knew it.)
Her: Haha, of course! You already knew that though…
Me: Let’s keep going, hmm…
When you were little, you wanted a pony, but instead, your parents gave you a turtle.
And one day, you found your turtle dead, half-eaten by ants — and that trauma explains some of your… slightly strange behavior.
Her: Hahaha… Did Eva tell you that?
(Did I actually guess right?
To this day, I still don’t know — but she laughed, and that’s all that matters.)
Me: Let me see your other hand… this one feels a little dishonest.
(That’s when I shifted the tone, pulled her a little closer, looked her in the eyes, and said…)
Me: You have a great sense of humor, but you always tend to bring things back to logic.
You’re a pretty rational girl, and there are only a handful of times when you truly let yourself get carried away by your emotions.
Her: Hmm… maybe, yeah.
(She paused and got thoughtful.)
Me: And I don’t know if anyone’s ever told you this, but you have these little expressions — your surprise reactions — that are so childlike and innocent.
You’re one of those people who still carry that spark from when they were a kid, and it gives you this dreamy, almost spiritual vibe.
And you know what they say about people like that… they often have the potential to become great leaders.
But hey, I’m not saying you are one — I’m just saying that’s usually the case. 😛
Her: Hahaha, hey now…
(She was the leader of her friend group — it was obvious.
And she loved that I picked up on it.
She also enjoyed the little playful jab at the end.)
Me: And there’s something else I’m picking up…
Part of you craves being led, feeling protected in someone else’s hands.
You fight it at first — you don’t like losing control — but when you finally let yourself go…
you absolutely love it.
Her: …
Her: Okay… you’re good.
Can you read the future too?
Me: The future? Yeah, of course… but there’s a little problem when it comes to reading the future.
Her: What’s the problem?
Me: I’m a bit out of practice.
I can only predict the very near future.
Like… what’s going to happen exactly one minute from now.
Wanna give it a shot?
Her: Sure…
(Now she was completely locked into our conversation, totally zoned out from everything happening around us.
She hadn’t even thought about her friend Eva in several minutes — and honestly, she didn’t care anymore.
At that point, I moved a little closer to her, still holding her hand, looked her straight in the eyes, and said…)
Me: Hmm… yeah, I can see it now…
You know what I see?
Her: What?
Me: I see the two of us…
Still right here, right in this exact spot…
And do you know what’s happening?
Her: What??
(She’s burning with curiosity.)
Me:
We’re kissing.
(Boom.)
She burst out laughing — the kind of nervous laugh that lights up her whole face — and turned bright red.
She definitely wasn’t expecting that.
Me: No, seriously…
I can only see one minute into the future… but I never get it wrong.
Thirty seconds left…
(She kept laughing nervously at everything I said, dropping her gaze shyly — but she never pulled her hand away.)
Me: Five… four… three…
(That’s when she stopped laughing.
She slowly leaned in closer.
I paused the countdown for a moment.
We locked eyes.
I glanced at her lips, then back into her eyes, and picked the countdown back up.)
Me: Two… one…
(And then…
We kissed.)
Why It Works
You shift the frame of the interaction.
The moment you bring up the “mentalist” idea, you stop being the guy trying to kiss her and become the guy reading her soul.
It instantly puts you in a position of power and mystery — and it lowers her defenses because now she’s curious.
The physical excuse to touch her hand.
Asking for her hand creates a natural, easy moment of physical contact — and keeps that contact going without it feeling weird.
Sustained physical contact (hand in hand) builds emotional connection and quietly signals confidence.
You trigger emotions, not logic.
Your story makes her smile, reflect, dream, and feel nostalgia.
These are deep, tender emotions that most guys never even touch on during a typical date.
When you move a woman emotionally, you move her much closer to feeling physical desire.
You create emotional anticipation for the kiss.
By predicting “in one minute, we’ll be kissing,” you break the tension and guide her emotions.
She starts imagining the kiss before it even happens — so when it does, it doesn’t feel sudden or awkward.
It feels like a playful little “prophecy” coming true.
You erase the anxiety of “making the first move.”
Since she’s already “bought into” the playful prediction, she’s the one who naturally starts leaning in.
The kiss doesn’t feel forced — it feels organic and almost inevitable.
You reinforce a high-self-esteem frame.
Everything about this move shows you’re a guy who’s used to these situations — not someone desperate for her reaction.
That quietly triggers a powerful surge of unconscious attraction.
Conclusion
Obviously, for this to work, you need to perform the routine like a man who’s comfortable in his own skin.
You’ve got to look her in the eyes, hold her hand like it’s the most natural thing in the world, tell the story in a steady tone, and flash a little smirk at just the right moments.
If you’re nervous — if it feels too much like you’re reciting something you memorized — she won’t slip into the emotional state you want.
But if you’re relaxed, and you help her relax and get into the story too, I guarantee she’ll let herself get carried away… and enjoy the moment even more than you will.
Over the years, I’ve received countless emails from guys telling me they got their very first kiss thanks to this routine.
And more than a few of them told me it led to a relationship… and maybe even marriage.
So now you know —
If your problem is not knowing how to spark emotions and move toward the kiss on a date, give this a try.
Let me know how it goes.