Bumble OM
Warning: You need to finish the 44WORDS course before reading this bonus—otherwise, none of it will make sense.
A few months back, Bumble made an announcement:
They were gonna let men start convos too.
Why?
Because apparently, making women say “Hi” is too exhausting. Too much pressure for them.
Saying “Hi” is harder for women than the more brutal leg day is for us.
Anyway.
I tried their new feature. It’s called Opening Move—and it didn’t work like I thought.
Now girls can pick a pre-written question from a list, and when you match, that question pops up to kick off the chat.
Here are some examples:
- “What’s something you’re excited about?”
- “What are your red and green flags?”
- “What’s your favorite book?”
Yeah… thrilling stuff.
But hey, it’s a way for some girls to pick a question and avoid the extreme mental effort of typing “Hi.”
So you answer her question, and from there the chat goes on like usual.
But here’s where it gets good:
We can set up our own Opening Move too.
And not just the bland default ones—you can write your own.
Which means:
You can now set a question that’ll automatically pop up for every girl you match with—right after the match happens.
Holy shit.
Do you realize the kind of firepower that gives you?
For my Opening Move, I came up with a question that fit perfectly with my 44-word bio.
And guess what?
Girls didn’t just use it to start the convo—they came into the chat with triple the curiosity.
Sexual curiosity, to be clear.
Brutal.
My Bumble Opening Move
OK, I won’t keep you waiting—here’s the line I use as my Opening Move on Bumble:
“Are you one of those who actually reads profiles, or is it all about the pictures for you?”
At first glance, it seems harmless. Casual. Even playful. But underneath, this question is doing a lot more work than it seems.
Let’s break it down:
1. It triggers self-justification
You’re asking a question where the “good girl” answer is obvious.
No girl wants to admit:
“Yeah, I just swipe based on looks, I don’t care about bios.”
So she’ll almost always say she does read profiles.
But here’s the twist:
By saying that… She’s indirectly telling you that she read yours.
And guess what happens when your bio has a sexual cliffhanger at the end?
Boom: you’ve just created a perfect opening for her to bring it up. And if she doesn’t, you can bring it up naturally, without looking like the sexual one—because she just said she reads bios.
2. It shifts the dynamic from visual to verbal
Most chats on Bumble start with visual attraction and nothing else.
But this question flips the script: it brings the focus to what you wrote, to your personality, and to her opinion.
You’re making her reflect—“Wait… what did I like about his profile?”
Which leads her straight to the part you want her to notice: the (+18) fetish line.
3. It creates instant curiosity
You’re not just making small talk.
You’re planting a seed:
“I have something in my profile that most guys don’t.”
So when she does reread your bio, she lands on that sexual hint—and now it feels like a discovery, not a pitch.
That’s key.
You’re not telling her “I want to talk about sex.”
You’re making her want to ask you about it.
And that difference changes everything.
4. It gives her a low-effort way to start the chat
Think about it: Bumble was literally forced to let women avoid saying “Hi”.
Most girls hate starting convos.
This question does the heavy lifting for them.
It gives them a clear entry point and makes it feel natural to respond—while still giving you the control to steer the chat where you want.
5. It sets the tone: curious, playful, with a sexual undertone
The vibe of the question is light, but the underlying frame is clear:
- “I’m a guy who writes stuff worth reading.”
- “There’s more to me than just pictures—and I’m guessing the same goes for you.”
- “If you read what I wrote… you’re going to be intrigued.”
It’s seductive without being aggressive.
Confident without being try-hard.
And it leads the chat exactly where you want it to go: conversation, connection, and sexual tension.
How to reply to her Bumble Opening Move
My own Opening Move will get a lot of girls to message you first—because you’re not just another profile, and you’re giving them something to react to.
But if she doesn’t respond… and she has an Opening Move set up, then you can actually write first, using her question as the entry point.
Even if her question is something like:
“What’s your favorite book?”
You don’t answer it.
Instead, you say this:
“I just wanted to tell you there’s something in your profile that’s really sexy—and you almost never see it. Know what it is?”
Why this works so damn well:
- You stand out.
Every other guy is playing her game, answering her question like a good boy.
You’re the only one who flips the script and makes her the interesting one. - You trigger curiosity.
She wants to know: “Wait… what did he see?”
It’s a compliment wrapped in mystery—and it makes her lean in. - You send her to your profile.
She’ll go back and look at your bio to figure you out.
And there it is: the (+18) fetish line.
Now she’s curious on two levels: ego and desire.
You’re not being pushy. You’re not being explicit.
But you’re building a vibe where something’s clearly going on—and she wants to know what it is.
What’s the sexy thing?
It can be anything that:
- You actually noticed on her profile, and
- Gives you a chance to start a unique, playful convo.
Examples:
- “The fact that you’re into salsa dancing. That shit is 🔥.”
- “You seem right-wing and hot. That’s rare.”
- “That pic of you hiking. You look like you’d talk me into cliff-jumping with zero hesitation.”
The key is to pick something specific—and if possible, unexpected.
You’re not handing out compliments like some thirsty nice guy.
You’re noticing like a man who’s already picturing what she’d be like up close.
From there, you just follow the same steps you’ve already learned in the 44WORDS course.
That spark of curiosity she’s already feeling?
It’s gonna make getting a date feel almost too easy.
That’s it.
A single question, placed at the right time, can flip the whole dynamic—and turn curiosity into tension, and tension into dates.
Now go test it.